tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-363065692011-08-14T10:52:43.515-04:00A blog offering the Harley Wisdom of Dr. Bill Emener. What exactly is Harley Wisdom? It's a great deal of education and work experience mixed in with a bit of real-life Harley riding. Read on to discover Dr. Bill's unique take on life's speed bumps.Dr. Bill Emenerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00707755608580620460noreply@blogger.comBlogger1861100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36306569.post-10808209811268888672011-04-03T14:09:00.006-04:002011-04-03T14:41:01.969-04:00

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As you very well may have seen in my November 11, 2010 Post, after retiring from the University of South Florida last May I took a much-needed hiatus from writing. Yes, I do have my next novel about 80% outlined and have been reading voraciously since, but I also have been busy doing other things with my wordsmith passion. For example, I recently have been working hard on getting my three “tree

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As I have been telling you, for the past year a good friend and colleague, Dr. Bill Lambos, and I have been writing two new self-help books. They are a companion set and indeed address the critical issues that challenge people in loving relationships.The overall theme and topics of the first book are on its back cover:The second one of this "Companion Set" is Our Loving Relationship. On the

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As I have mentioned on numerous occasions, for the past five months I have been heavily involved with my co-editors and co-authors in the writing and editing of five books – two self-help books and three textbooks. I am delighted to tell you that all publishers’ deadlines have been met thus far and four of the five books should be out and available within the next four to six weeks. As soon as

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As I recently have observed and reflected on some macro issues in our society (e.g., Bank of America’s purchase of Merrill Lynch, the leveraging activities of investment banks such as Goldman Sachs and Lehman and the large salaries and huge bonuses of their executives) as well as some micro issues (e.g., how modern life has become dominated by self-focused people whose primary if no sole

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About a week ago, before leaving for a brief one-last-vacation before the start of fall semester, I was chatting with a Harley-riding friend of mine who recently had gone on a job interview. He said that he turned down the job offer. He is retired from his last position (25 years as a chemist) and a rather intelligent and well-educated individual (with a MS degree in chemical engineering and a

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As we progress through life, it is important for us to have a healthy sense of self-concept, self-esteem and self-worth. (In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall self-appraisal of his or her own worth.) I use the term “healthy” for a specific reason. On occasion, for example, I see the children of the “soccer mom generation” of the 1990s who grew up seeing bumper stickers on

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In addition to my regular and customary personal and work life activities, for the past few months I also have been working with colleagues on four new books, under contract and with hard, publisher deadlines. Thus, as you may have noticed, I have been remiss in posting Posts on my blog. Nonetheless, I repeatedly have been observing something that I feel a need to address: how we Americans

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Over the past two weeks, I’ve been slammed with student reports, term papers and final exams (not to mention working on two books under contract) – the reason for my not being around and posting Posts. To wit, I apologize and henceforth will try to be timelier. During these past two weeks, moreover, on numerous occasions a very close friend of mine has repeatedly not called back when he said he

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Over the past few weeks, I have been slammed with mounting end-of-the-semester tasks at the university as well as approaching deadlines on three books. Thus, with all due self-respect, my absence from my blog actually has been for valid reasons. Over these few weeks, nonetheless, I continually have seen the further erosion of professionalism in our society. A “professional” can be either a

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One of the most fascinating concepts that human beings have grappled with has been the phenomenon of time. Time is a basic component of the measuring system used to sequence events, to compare the duration of events and the intervals between them, and to quantify the motions of objects. Understandably, time has been a major subject of religion, philosophy, and science, but defining time in a

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As we all know, the next two months contain two special days: Mother's Day -- May 11th and Father's Day -- June 15th. Most people have their own personal “historical considerations” of these two holidays – e.g., the family taking Mom out to her favorite restaurant, her poised at the head of the table, and the family putting on a special barbeque for Dad, everyone centered around him in a new

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One recent one Friday night after one of my co-ed softball games, a couple of my teammates and I went to the bar that sponsors our team to lift a few eight ounce curls and celebrate our victory. Amid the enjoyable cajoling and imbibing, a buddy of mine was talking to me about his new girlfriend and said, “About a month ago when she and I first met, she promised me that she’d always come out to

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In my graduate class in Marriage Counseling and Therapy at the University of South Florida, it is not uncommon for one of the female students to say something like, “Sometimes I get so frustrated… I just wish my boyfriend (husband or significant other) would tell me how he feels.” Expressing and sharing emotion is an important aspect of life, yet for many men it is a challenging, daunting and

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I repeatedly have observed that most people have a few favorite songs that bring back warm memories. I sure have a few. For example, when my daughters were little they loved it when I would sit at the piano or grab my guitar and play and sing “Daddy’s Little Girl.” And now when I hear it or play it, gentle warm feelings engulf me, to say the least. In each of my contemporary romance novels,

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As many of you know, my January 17th Post, “Do You Tell Little White Lies? (Or do you lie about that to?),” was well received and enjoyed by many individuals. Since that posting, nonetheless, many individuals have shared with me the occasional humorous and daunting aspects of telling white les in romantic adult loving relationships. For example, Floyd P. Garrett, M.D., wrote an intriguing paper

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It is reasonable to assume that when we are in an adult loving relationship we attend to (and take care of) our significant other. At the same time, however, it is important to assure that we don’t carry our caring to an extreme – that’s typically called “codependency.” Codependence (or codependency) is a popular psychology concept popularized by Twelve-Step program advocates. A “codependent”

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Most people like to think of themselves and portray themselves as “an honest person.” As some of you know, in my novels, pop-psych books and self-help books the phenomena of honesty, dishonesty and deceit are frequently discussed and illustrated (as well of the many ramifications of them). When I perchance look at people’s self-written profiles on websites such as match.com and eharmony.com, it

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As can easily be explained by behavioral psychology, most people have patterns in their lives. The term “pattern,” from the French word patron meaning model, is “a recurring set of events or objects that repeat in a predictable fashion.” The term “functional” can refer to many phenomena (such as functional form and functionalism [as in architecture, mathematics, ontology, programming, symptom,

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For the past few weeks, in between some much needed R & R, I have been able to work at home on my writing – two new editions of previously published books (albeit I had a few work-related e-mails and phone calls, but by and large it has been relaxing). In addition to a few softball games, good workouts at the gym and motorcycle rides, I had numerous opportunities to meet some interesting people

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It seems like every year about this time, many of my friends and I make what sometimes sound like idle promises wrapped in a “New Year’s Resolution.” New Year's Eve typically has been a time for looking back to the past, and more importantly, forward to the coming year. Basically, many people see it as a good time to reflect on the changes we want (or need) to make and resolve to follow through

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I had planned to write a Post, talking about the meaning of Christmas and the importance of "giving." In stead, I acted on my own thoughts -- I spent the time it would have taken me to write the Post (actually about three times the amount) at a shelter peeling potatoes and carrots for the Christmas dinners the shelter will be serving tonight and tomorrow for the homeless people in our area. In

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The old cliché, “Money is the root of all evil,” indeed can be a source of difficulty and trouble for individuals in adult loving relationships. Interestingly, in each of my three contemporary romance novels, money and equity are central issues. For example, in My Sweetpea: Seven Years and Seven Days, Sheila’s difficulties with Troy become magnified when his compulsive gambling begins to

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While we all would agree that a person’s family and significant other are central to their life and overall happiness, it could be argued that a person’s friends also have a powerful and meaningful place in his or her life as well. What I’m talking about are your friendships. A friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behavior between two or more humans – specifically

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As I have mentioned previously, a good friend and colleague, Dr. William Lambos, and I currently are writing, under contract from Nova Science Publishers, the 2nd Edition of my 1997 self-help book, Adult Loving Relationships. Over the past few days, we have been working on Chapter 26, “Life Styles,” and in it we talk about the importance of “maintaining compatibility between a couple’s shared

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As I was driving back from visiting my family for Thanksgiving, I found myself thinking a lot about adult loving relationships. (Spending seven to eight hours on the interstate can facilitate such thinking.) Most of all, I thought about how we spend our time – especially when we are married or in a significant-other relationship. I also recalled that in my contemporary romance novels, the main

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As all of us in the United States clearly know, this coming Thursday is a big day – Thanksgiving, or Thanksgiving Day – the traditional North American holiday to give thanks at the conclusion of the harvest season. Thanksgiving is celebrated on the fourth Thursday of November in the United States and on the second Monday of October in Canada. Indeed, Thanksgiving is a special time… a special

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Today was one of those wonderful fall days on the west coast of Florida – low seventies, low humidity, high blue sky, bright sun and very few snow birds on the roadways – simply perfect for a motorcycle ride. Thus, after helping a neighbor in his yard and then meeting two good friends for a late breakfast where we were able to sit outside, I took off on my Harley Road King heading north on Gulf

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Recently while talking to a friend who read all three of my novels, she told me that she noticed that all three of the main characters not only pay attention to the intimate issues of their relationships but they also pay attention to what they pay attention to. That indeed is true for Marcia in Fear of Feeling Loved and for Diane in If Ever Again… It’ll be for Love – my last two novels. In my

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The impetus for this Post came from an e-mail I recently received from a former student. Below is the part of her e-mail that grabbed me:* * * * * * * * * * * * * * *Over the past few months, my husband and I have been having a less than desirable relationship. We basically were arguing all the time. I suggested that he and I read your pop-psych book, Living Life, Anyway. It was the first few

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Tonight, my softball team lost an important game in the St. Petersburg Men’s League. And while I felt good about my pitching, some of my teammates didn’t fair so well in their positions and some of the post-game conversation got a little heated. I spoke with some of my teammates after the game, however, and reminded them of what I had said to our team in an e-mail a few days ago after some

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Historically, the Ancient Greek aphorism “Know yourself” (Greek: γνῶθι σεαυτόν or gnothi seauton) was inscribed in the pronaos (forecourt) of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. And interestingly, the aphorism has been attributed to at least six ancient Greek sages: Heraclitus, Chilon of Sparta (Chilon I 63, 25), Thales of Miletus, Socrates, Pythagoras, and Solon of Athens. The saying “Know

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Trust is a relationship of reliance. A trusted party is presumed to seek to fulfill policies, ethical codes, law and their previous promises and agreements. Trust does not need to involve belief in the good character, vices, or morals of the other party. Even persons engaged in a criminal activity usually trust each other to some extent. Also trust does not need to include an action that you

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According to wikipedia.org, Love is a feeling of embarrassment and sexual experience related to a sense of strong loyalty or profound oneness.[1] The meaning of love varies relative to context. Romantic love is seen as an ineffable feeling of intense attraction shared in passionate or intimate attraction and intimate interpersonal and sexual relationships.[2] Though often linked to personal

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Last night as I was pulling out of the parking lot at the University of South Florida, my thought about my class – Wow, that was one of the better ones! – was accompanied with a wide smile on my face. Then as my smile widened, I thought, And just think – I get paid to do this! I am blessed: what I have done for the past forty years and still do to earn a living – teaching, counseling and

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As many of my readers know, I use humor in the majority of my writing. For example, my novels (My Sweetpea: Seven Years and Seven Days, Fear of Feeling Loved, and If Ever Again… It’ll be for Love) are sprinkled with humorous lines and incidences. Humor is the ability or quality of people, objects, or situations to evoke feelings of amusement in other people. The term encompasses a form of

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When I work with couples, I always find it interesting when they tell me what it was that first attracted them to each other. For some, it was a physical feature (e.g., legs, hands, back), for others it was a personality characteristic (funny, witty, charming, secure), and for others it was an attribute such as success, power, popularity, talent, etc.For many years, research investigating the

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When I awoke this morning, I had no idea as to what I might discuss in this Post. By noon, however, I had worked on a chapter for the book I am writing with Dr. Bill Lambos, a good friend and colleague (the book is tentatively titled, Your Adult Loving Relationships). The chapter we’re currently drafting is about Internet Dating. Then when I went to the gym for a workout, a friend was talking

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I trust most of you remember my Post of July 21, 2007, “Happiness” – A Pervasive Human Goal," in which I concluded with the question, “How central is happiness in your life?” If know me or are familiar with my writings, you know it is central to my life. Fittingly, I herein want to address it again. Firstly, let’s remember that “Happiness” is an emotional or affective state that is

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In the process of living a meaningful and happy life, most people also want to have a sense of freedom. And while there are numerous definitions of “freedom,” for purposes of this Post, I shall be referring to the “inner autonomy” (philosophical) considerations of freedom: “…known as self-determination, individual sovereignty, or autonomy. Freedom can also signify inner autonomy, or mastery

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In my last Post entitled “What We Pay Attention To – A Delicate Balance for Living a Happy Life,” I suggested that in order to live a healthy and happy life it is important to know what to pay attention to (as well as how much time you attend to specific things and people). I also reminded my readers that in my pop-psych book, Mom and Dad’s Pearls of Wisdom: You Gotta Love ’Em, I share many

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I believe it is safe to assume that most of us want to live a happy life. Nonetheless, our desire and reality sometimes are not the same. Thus an overarching question for many of us is, “What do I have to do to live a happy life?” Interestingly, Marcus Aurelius Antoninus (121 AD - 180 AD) stated, “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”

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Last Friday morning I was in my 2007 Jeep Wrangler, driving from my home in St. Pete Beach to the University of South Florida in north Tampa for a faculty meeting. At seven-forty-five I was getting on the Howard Frankland Bridge which carries Interstate 275 over Old Tampa Bay. Close to 200,000 vehicles per day cross between Pinellas and Hillsborough counties on this bridge. Including the

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According to Wikipedia, Morality (from Latin moralitas "manner, character, proper behavior") refers to the concept of human action which pertains to matters of right and wrong – also referred to as "good and evil" – used within three contexts: individual distinction; systems of valued principles – sometimes called conduct morality – shared within a cultural, religious, secular or philosophical

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I always have and always will enjoy my three, now adult, children Their mom and I, albeit divorced for the past seventeen years, are good friends and enjoy our roles as Grandma and Pop Pop. I thoroughly enjoy different interpersonal interaction styles with my children – "adult-adult," "parent-child," and the fun style of "child-child." As you may know, Eric Berne has written extensively on

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It is my contention that there is a meaningful connection between behavior and perception – especially when it comes to adult loving relationships. Most people know the meaning of the term “behavior.” In this Post, however, I am referring specifically to human behavior – which is the collection of behaviors exhibited by human beings and influenced by culture, attitudes, emotions, values,

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These two phenomena, dishonesty and duplicitousness, are related – different pews in the same church if you will. First let’s look at them individually. Dishonesty – both by commission and omission – “is a word which in common usage may be defined as the act or to act without honesty; a lack of probity, to cheat, lying or being deliberately deceptive; lacking in integrity; to be knavish,

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It is safe to assume that most people like to think of themselves and have others think of them as a “winner” – nobody wants to be a loser. Nonetheless, let’s pause for a moment and think about what it means to be a “winner.” According to Definitions on the Web, a “winner” is: (1) the contestant who wins the contest; (2) a gambler who wins a bet; and (3) an achiever: a person with a record of

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Most people try to be helpful to others. (At least I believe that to be true.) But what does it mean – “to help someone?” According to the dictionary, help means “to give assistance to; aid: I helped her find the book. He helped me into my coat.” And according to “Answers,” there are other considerations to “help” in the verb form:1. To contribute to the furtherance of; promote. 2, To give

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Passion is the emotion of feeling very strongly about a subject or person. Its etymology: is Middle English – from Anglo-French and from Late Latin: passion – “suffering, being acted upon.” In his very interesting article, “What is Passion?” Brian Norris says, “When people ask me how I am, my usual response is ‘Positively Passionate.’ Most people let the unexpected words sink in. And then,

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Early this morning I will be leaving for a family reunion – our first and hopefully the first of many. This year it will include my three adult children, their mother, a daughter-in-law and a son-in-law, three grandchildren, and Cody – my son’s dog. The large four bed room, three-bath beach house with a pool on St. George Island in the pan handle of Florida will provide the venue for laughter,

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After a pivotal moment, it is not uncommon for me to look back over my shoulder and in my mind say, “Thanks (fill in the blank)!” The person I am “thanking” easily could have been one of my parents, one of my uncles or aunts, grandparents, one of my three adult children, and an array of others who I refer to as "the meaningful people in my life.” These were the people who, mostly during my

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In his well-written article entitled “How Your Philosophy Shapes Your Life,” James Delrojo says, “Everyone has a philosophy of life whether they realize it or not. This philosophy was largely instilled into your mind when you were a child and is unlikely to be something that you stopped to weigh up as it was going in… The bulk of your philosophy of life is formed in the first seven years of your

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As most of us know, happiness is an emotional or affective state that is characterized by feelings of enjoyment, pleasure, and satisfaction, and my thesis is that being happy is a pervasive human goal. Interestingly, some of the great minds of the world have offered some serious and humorous comments about the construct of happiness. For example: Albert Schweitzer said, “Happiness is nothing

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Existentialism is a philosophical movement that claims that individual human beings have full responsibility for creating the meanings of their own lives. It is a reaction against more traditional philosophies, such as rationalism and empiricism, which sought to discover an ultimate order in metaphysical principles or in the structure of the observed world. The movement had its origins in the

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The other day while at the gym, a friend and I were talking about my contemporary romance novels. She asked if “struggling with trusting whether or not someone’s love for you is genuine” is a phenomenon I purposefully built into my novels. “Yes,” I replied with a broadening smile. “You sure do read between the lines well don’t you?!” I was truly touched when she talked about how Sheila (in

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I begin Chapter 12, “Living Life, Responsibly,” of my pop-psych book, Living Life, Anyway, by saying: Being a responsible person means that within the limiting realities of your power, control, and management, you consider yourself answerable and accountable for specific occurrences. Commensurately, you behave responsibly. Later in that chapter, I also offer some specific suggestions

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As I suggest in my self-help book, Adult Loving Relationships, there are no definitive secrets to a happy marriage per se – everyone and every couple have they’re own. Nonetheless, a good friend, Jordana, recently sent to me a link to an excellent and very interesting Today.msnbc website article entitled, “7 secrets to a long — and happy marriage.” It tells about Matthew Boggs, whose

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The double entendre in the title of my pop-psych book, Living Life, Anyway, captures it all. Living life is what it’s all about -– not existing through life or struggling through life, but living life. Moreover, you can live your life anyway -– anyway meaning “any way you want to live your life,” and anyway meaning “in spite of the unwanted and undeserved dirty deals your life may have handed

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In my December 12, 2006 Post entitled “Being Romantic Involves Loving, Caring and Skills,” I said, “being romantic minimally requires three things: (1) you have to feel love (toward the person); (2) you have to care (about him or her and how they feel); and, (3) you have to have skills. Being romantic necessitates knowing how to be romantic.” Thus, when you love someone and are in a romantic

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As you probably remember, my last Post was atypical of my usual. In a different manner – different in terms of my posting anyway – that Post, “A Crusty Old Biker’s Evaluation of the Leadership of the United States,” directly and indirectly addresses some rather controversial issues. And if you haven’t read the Comments to it, please do – you’ll see what I mean. As I began to put together a

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As most of you well know, the vast majority of my blog Posts address issues associated with romantic adult relationships and contemporary philosophy. On occasion, nonetheless, I deviate from my norm. This is one of them. Last night, nothing less than another hot, muggy evening along the Gulf coast of Florida, I decided not to stay in the air conditioning or under the paddle fans on my back

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The nature and the essence of a significant-other relationship can be tested and plummeted in numerous ways. When discussing this aspect of adult romantic relationships in my self-help book, Adult Loving Relationships, my number one suggested litmus test is captured in the following axiom: The best indication of the nature of our relationship is how I feel about myself in your presence. In

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“Shoulds” indeed play an important role in romantic adult loving relationships. And should you be interested (no pun intended), the well-known Dr. Albert Ellis’ Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy talks at length about “shoulds, musts and have-tos.” An excellent read on this is: A Guide to Rational Living by Albert Ellis and Robert A. Harper. Dr. Ellis, somewhat tongue-in-cheek, once said, “

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As I discuss in my self-help book, Adult Loving Relationships, most people want to be loved… for who they are, not what they are. In her excellent article, “The Secret to Being Loved,” Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D., poignantly says, “One of the most important things we can teach our children, perhaps the most important thing, is how to be loved and loving. We can’t protect them from the many

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As you know, my Posts typically have insightful and relatively poignant messages. Today, however, I’m thinking and Posting outside the box. My day began with a delightful breakfast with my brother and sister-in-law, George and Debbie, and dear friends, Doug and Susan, at a beach-side restaurant. Then we got on our Harleys and drove over the Skyway Bridge to a great little biker bar, Peggy’s

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Earlier this week during a wonderful telephone conversation with Tony, my younger daughter’s fiancé, we drifted into a discussion about “success” and “happiness.” During our conversation, I said, “The size of ones house and the price of ones toys is an indication of success but do not necessarily guarantee happiness.” Later that day, I found some interesting and enlightening quotes regarding

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As we all know, in adult loving romantic relationships, it understandably is important for both individuals to feel loving toward each other. Nonetheless, it also is important for each of them to act loving toward each other. The importance of being loving toward a loved one is discussed in a very enlightening article, “The Relationship Between Feelings and Behavior” by Sidney D. Craig, Ph.D.

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Tomorrow I will be driving up to my son’s house in Lizella, Georgia (just outside of Macon) to spend the weekend at a family gathering – my three grandchildren being the center of much attention (especially Austin – it’s his fifth birthday). And although I don’t have to tell you… anyone who has spent time around children or is a parent or a grandparent knows that sometimes children can say the

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According to usembassy.gov, “The United States is one of the few countries in the world that has an official day on which fathers are honored by their children. On the third Sunday in June, fathers all across the United States are given presents, treated to dinner or otherwise made to feel special.” Fittingly, June 17th will be a special day – we get to celebrate (and if possible, “spoil”) our

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As most of us know, the national divorce rate has been hovering around 52% over the past few years. And according to divorcerate.org, “The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage – 50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield,

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In September, 2003, I published my first pop-psych book, Living Life Anyway. The book’s description explains the double entendre in the book’s title: Living Life is what it's all about - not existing through life or struggling through life, but living life. Moreover, you can live your life anyway - anyway meaning "any way you want to live your life," and anyway meaning "in spite of the

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I recently received a reply e-mail from a colleague/friend who I use to work with and had not heard from in a long time. “I decided my 80-hour work-weeks were not good for me anymore… I quit that rat-race job and am moving back home,” she in effect said. And while I was saddened to not be able to work with my colleague anymore, I was happy that my friend was heading toward a better life. In my

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It is amazing how pervasive, stifling and troubling fear of abandonment can be in ones life. As Rhonda Findling pointedly says in her eNotAlone article, “To be abandoned as a child is to die. A child cannot survive without the nurturing of adults -- depending on our individual histories, that fear remains within us to some degree… As adults, if we are abandoned by someone to whom we look for

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As we all know, this Sunday is a special day – we get to celebrate (and if possible, “spoil”) our mothers. For me and my brother, however, we will probably do what we have done for the past seven years – amid good-hearted laughter and reverence, celebrate our Mom in our own spiritual way. In my latest pop-psych book, Mom and Dad’s Pearls of Wisdom... You Gotta Love 'Em, I share with the

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I am excited to tell you that my new contemporary romance novel, If Ever Again… It’ll be for Love, is out and available! As with all of my novels, this book portrays numerous adult loving relationship issues and their effects on everyone involved – issues and concepts that I teach in my graduate course, “Marriage and Couples Counseling” at the University of South Florida on the main campus in

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Generally speaking, it is very helpful if our behavior (i.e., what we do as well as what we don’t do) is consistent. More pointedly – in romantic adult loving relationships, especially if the behavior is desired, preferred and important to the other person – the consistency of behavior tends to be very comforting to the other individual. The primary reason for this is that consistent behavior

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A rather informative Internet article entitled Power Control and Individuality Issues in Relationships poignantly states, “Power and control are two of the most significant issues in any relationship. The more trouble the relationship is facing, the more these power and control issues will come to the surface. The better the relationship is working the less power and control issues will be a

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Over my 33-years of work as a licensed psychologist, one of my areas of expertise was marriage and couples counseling. A therapeutic intervention technique that I frequently found to be helpful during my first session with a couple was to review with them what I called The Love Triangle. Basically, I drew a diagram for them – a triangle with words on each of the three sides. And while

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As we all know, the next two months contain two special days:Mother's Day -- May 13th andFather's Day -- June 17th.Most people have their own personal “historical considerations” of these two holidays – e.g., the family taking Mom out to her favorite restaurant, her poised at the head of the table, and the family putting on a special barbeque for Dad, everyone centered around him in a lounge

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In a previous Post, on January 30, 2007, I addressed the question, “Why people get into and stay in romantic adult loving relationships?” And while augmenting the reasons I offered, basically from my 1998 self-help book, Adult Loving Relationships, the 12 Comments to that Post offered numerous other reasons. Now I would like to address another poignant question: “Why do people end romantic

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My personal as well as professional experience has revealed that “romance” is a nebulous phenomenon that is easier to describe than define. It is easy to define romance with simplistic statements such as “Romance is showing you care.” Sure, it sounds good at first, but although draping your coat over a puddle and asking if she remembered to brush her teeth that morning may be actions triggered by

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In my view, almost everyone wants to be in a healthy, satisfying, mutually generous and regenerating romantic adult loving relationship. Nonetheless, many people express amazement when they see others who have created one, because they haven’t been able to do it. Unfortunately, people seldom want to look at the “fears” that influence them and their actions when dealing with their romantic loving

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As you probably have seen, in honor of the upcoming Mother’s Day and Father’s Day holidays I am offering my latest pop-psych book, Mom and Dad’s Pearls of Wisdom… You Gotta Love ’Em, at a special, website discount price. (The Promo Code and special price is good through May 15th.) The other day I was reading a Sports articles regarding the upcoming Kentucky Derby and had a flashback to

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Why people in romantic adult loving relationships cheat – commit infidelity – involves many factors and has numerous answers, each typically unique to each and every situation. Understandably, it is extremely difficult to directly research the topic – it involves shame, embarrassment, guilt and denial, among other factors, and as such is very difficult to investigate in a definitive sense.

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Patterns in romantic adult loving relationships not only are inevitable, but also can be troubling. For example, in his on-line article, “Relationship Patterns Don't Lie,” Bob Grant, L.P.C., says, “Many men and women know the definition of insanity (doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result) and in spite of this knowledge they continue to date or marry the same

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As most of you know, my 2007 pop-psych book, Mom and Dad’s Pearls of Wisdom… You Gotta Love ’Em, includes 50 vignette stories about memorable moments I had with my mom and dad (and some others’ with their moms and dads). Each vignette concludes with a “pearl of wisdom” they passed down to me (or their son or daughter). In addition to other features of the book, which are detailed in its own

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I many times have said to my clients and friends, “The only thing worse than a feeling of helplessness is a feeling of hopelessness.” As I am writing about in one of my two companion, self-help books, My Adult Loving Relationships, this postulate became eminently clear to me a couple of years ago when I was talking with a woman I shall refer to as Jill, a 32 year old school teacher who had

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In his excellent article entitled, “Trust and Relationships,” Alan Sieler says, “All of us, at one stage or other, have experienced a situation in which we have found ourself not trusting another person. This could have been someone we have just met and almost immediately have not felt comfortable with them. Expressions like ‘Wouldn’t trust him/her as far as 1 could kick them’ or ‘Wouldn’t touch

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